Our three day weekend was full of drama, as I knew it would be.
By Monday afternoon, we'd all pretty much had it. I packed the kids in the car to get us out of the house and drove off not knowing exactly where we were going to end up.
The kids played hysterical laughing games as I was driving, but sadly I was in no laughing mood. I listened to the radio wondering why I wasn't laughing like that.
We ended up at a local elementary school that has our most favorite playground. I parked the car with a view of the playground and the kids jumped out yelling "thanks, Mom!".....while I stayed in the car. Diego turned around questioning, "Are you dropping us off, Mom?"
I reassured him that I would simply be waiting in the car and gave instructions to stick together.
They were ecstatic. I'd never done that before. I wasn't hovering or monitoring or yelling out be carefuls. I WAS, however, watching intently from the car through a dirty glare on the window that didn't give me the best view of them.
There was another mom on the playground, and I wondered what she thought of my lackadaisical parenting.
But I also noticed that my kids were capable and even helpful to one another.
Joaquin came running back to the car about ten minutes after we got there. The parking lot was pretty far away, but I had rolled the window down and could hear him yelling "Mommm!" as soon as he started back. It turned out, Isabela had gone down a slide and sat in a puddle of water. I told him she had two choices: to go home or keep playing. He ran back to report and the wind carried his voice back to the car, "Mom said you have three choices." I was eager to hear what this third choice would be. He said, "You can go home, keep playing, or keep playing with no pants on." That got me laughing to myself in the car.
Another family soon joined on the playground, but I remained in the car, glad to have some quiet time to myself and happy that my kids were old enough to play on the play equipment without my help. Five minutes later, Joaquin was running over to the car again. Diego had peed under the slide! I hadn't considered that possibility. Well, he wasn't wet, and it was too late to do anything, so what could I do? And secretly, I was glad I had stayed in the car.
Isabela decided she'd had enough of her wet pants, so she came back to the car to sit with me, but the boys were exploding with energy, so I told them to keep playing.
I watched Joaquin help Diego on the zip line. Then Diego taught Joaquin a fun way to slide down the parallel bars. And again I was pleased and proud with how well they played together without me being there. Sometimes it's freeing to get mom off your back.
But all good things must come to an end.
I saw Diego slide off one of those rolling barrels and heard the high-pitched scream he emits when hurt, but not really. By the time I had waddled down there, all was well again. I let them show me all their tricks they'd been doing.
I knew it was time to go when peeing under the slide sounded like a good idea to me.
The boys came back to the car happily and we all headed back home in a better mood, playing word rhyming games, try and make me laugh games, and the best...make up your own joke games. That last one is hard. I gave an animal, a mouse, and we had to make our own joke about it. I think the best I could do was: What did the mouse do with the cheese? Made a hole in one. I laughed even harder because it was so not funny.
Next time we have an awful day, I'll remember: get outside, be an uninvolved parent every now and then, and tell silly jokes.